What Healing Inner Conflict is
Healing Inner Conflict (HIC) works with the parts of us that pull in different directions: the part that shouts at the kids, and the part that is angry with ourselves for doing it.
On the Northern Beaches, Tim combines HIC with a person-centred, relational way of working.
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These disturbances are signals of healing trying to happen. In other words, not something going wrong, rather something trying to go right.
How a session unfolds
Sessions start with one specific moment. Using simple questions, Tim helps you notice the signals involved, from the thoughts in your head to the tension in your body, and trace how that reaction was learned, often in childhood or after a later trauma, and why it still shows up today.
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Start with one moment
Rather than tackling everything at once, you begin with a single moment that disturbed you.
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Notice the signals
Tim helps you notice what was going on: the thoughts in your head, the feelings, the tension in your body.
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See where it comes from
Together you trace how that reaction was learned, often in childhood or after a later trauma, and why it still shows up today.
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Respond differently
With the pattern in view, you work out what it would take to respond differently next time.
Four common mechanisms
All of the methods used in HIC are based on the simplicity of the natural world. In the same way that there are developmental stages in the life cycle, so too the four most common disturbing internal mechanisms match these stages.
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Child mechanism
An internal override of unique expression.
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Adolescent mechanism
An attempt to override externally.
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Adult mechanism
An override of the adolescent mechanism.
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Self-medication and distraction
An attempt to override seemingly overwhelming feelings.
In sessions you learn to notice these mechanisms as they happen, in the moments you get triggered.
What it feels like to work this way
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One moment at a time
Rather than tackling everything at once, you start with a single moment that disturbed you and work outward from there.
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No part of you is the enemy
Conflicting parts are treated as ways you have tried to protect yourself, not as faults to fix. That takes the shame out of it.
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Understanding, then change
The aim isn’t simply to understand how a pattern developed or to manage its symptoms. It’s to show you how to recognise what is happening and repeatedly respond differently, creating meaningful and lasting change.
When
you’re ready
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Timothy Davey
Person-centred and relational, with Healing Inner Conflict
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