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Why do we need to develop a healthy relationship to sadness?
Because we don’t have one, as a rule. The consequences of not having a healthy relationship to sadness is that we must do all sorts of compulsive, compliance…
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New to Healing Inner Conflict? It’s the counselling framework Tim works with, alongside a person-centred, relational approach.
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2025
- How Healing Inner Conflict Differs from Other Modalities When it comes to therapy, many approaches aim to help us resolve the inner battles that affect our mental and emotional wellbeing.
- Understanding Inner Conflict: A Path to Healing and Self-Awareness Inner conflict is something we all experience, whether we realize it or not. It’s that unsettled feeling when something within us is at odds, causing emotional…
- Unpacking Childhood Mechanisms in Inner Conflict Ever feel paralysed by fear when you want to express something? This is often an internalised childhood mechanism at play.
- “Stop, or I’m leaving” In order to show parts trained in early dependent stage childhood that things are different now because the body is bigger and more resourceful, the adult must…
- Anger Expression Exercises In order to be able to bring permission and encouragement for the expression of all feelings this must include anger, fear and sadness.
- Healing Disturbing Behaviours: Understanding the Simplicity Behind Inner Struggles. Its processes are a simple template that can guide toward identifying the mechanisms behind disturbing behaviours, external or internal.
- The Mystery of Dissociation: Understanding Its Role in Trauma and Healing Coming to understand the function of dissociation has been the basis for the development of this work. Dissociation is the process someone uses to cut…
- The Basics of the HIC Method The counsellor encourages the client to start from the ASSOCIATED card in order to maximise the likelihood of being able to see the disturbance from an…
- The different parts of ‘Me’. We usually assume that ‘I’ ‘me’ and ‘myself’ are the same thing. So, in the example it seems like the ‘I’ is angry with the ‘myself’ for having shouted at the…
- What IS inner conflict? In describing ‘inner conflict’, we can use the example, “I am angry with myself for acting in a certain way” (e.g. shouting at the kids).
2024
- What Are “Parts”? Have you ever felt torn between two conflicting desires? Maybe a part of you wants to step into something new, while another part feels frozen…
- The Consequences of our Internal and External realities In our everyday lives, we experience a wide range of emotions, thoughts, and physical sensations. These experiences are a result of the interaction between…
- Navigating the mental health system Navigating the mental health system in Australia can be overwhelming, especially for those who are seeking help for the first time.
- Navigating Through Uncertainty: The Role of Counseling In today’s fast-paced and ever-changing world, navigating through life’s challenges can often feel like trying to find your way through a dense fog.
2023
- FOLLOW SIGNALS Three ways to follow signals, looking for Matches and Mismatches, Presences and Absences, Sensitivities and Insensitivities.
- Disturbances Disturbances (Emotional Pain) is ‘Healing Trying to Happen’…in the same way that physical pain forces out attention on that which needs healing, so emotional…
- Can you say NO We often think it’s easier than it is to say No, especially when there are relationships at stake.
- Intervening with the triggered moment… …starts the first moment that you notice you’re triggered. The first thing to do is get yourself out of the situation. Run to the bedroom, toilet, verandah…
- How to notice triggers When we are triggered we are usually doing and saying things in a way that we usually regret later.
- Dealing with issues of relationship conflict How Healing Inner Conflict (HIC) principles are used as a basis for dealing with issues of relationship conflict between a couple.
- Maintaining an effective, sensitive, mutually beneficial relationship Couples often come to counselling after years of arguments. On teaching the basic principles of HIC in a couple setting, with a few simple skills.
- Permission and encouragement For a couple to get out of the cycle of conflict, it is important they begin to understand the context within which conflict arises.
- Rain, Relationships and Retirement After so much rain, you may find tempers flaring and frustration rising. HIC principles can be used as a basis for dealing with relationship conflict.
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